The problem with being a Christian (an probably with any major world religion) is that often you don’t want to play the same game as everyone else. They might be your friends, you might respect them, but it seems that all too often you are keen to play by a different set of rules and that sets you outside your own environment. This means that often you just don’t get where they are coming from and you can feel excluded.
It’s an uncomfortable place to be. You have to be confident of the game you are playing, you have to be happy with the aloneness of the situation that sometimes arises. You also have to be prepared to lose to the game that everyone is playing which can sometimes mean losing friends, face and money/status as defined by that game. As I said, an uncomfortable place to be.
There is a tendency in all religions to abstract oneself from the game. To live in a monastery, to retreat to a holy huddle of people who think and act like you, who play by your rules. This is undoubtedly both easier and more comfortable – but it’s not effective and actually can be substantially less fun.
Being outside the game is also a position of power, it gives you a different perspective and allows you to comment on things from a distance rather than being sucked into the same thought patterns of the group you associate with. It allows you to impact on the game and it allows you to draw people away from the game into your game, a different beat, different rules.
The only thing to be wary of is an arrogance that might come with standing outside.